Why This Exists

Why This Exists

I didn’t start this blog to build a brand, chase traffic, or pretend I’ve cracked life.

I started it because my head gets loud, my life is messy, and writing things down is one of the few ways I might be able to make sense of it all without it leaking sideways into everything else.

Right now, home is the centre of everything. Days are shaped by nursery and playgroup runs, snacks, moods, mess, and the constant background noise of children existing at full volume. Somewhere in between, I’m trying to stay grounded, useful, and sane. This blog is where I slow things down enough to notice what’s actually happening.

Who I Am

I’m Alex. At the moment, I’m a stay at home dad.

My role right now is to hold the fort, the best I can. I “manage” the chaos, the routines, the appointments, the emotional weather, and the thousand invisible jobs that keep a household from tipping over.

I used to ship software for a living. That part of me hasn’t disappeared. I still think in systems, trade-offs, and consequences. I still care about building things properly and saying what I mean. Those instincts just get applied to family life now, where the feedback loops are faster and the users are far less forgiving.

I’m a dad who loves his kids deeply and still gets it wrong. Both of those things are true.

What We’ve Been Through

The last few years have not been gentle.

As a family, we’ve been through periods of unbelievable stress, uncertainty, and emotional upheaval that forced everything into the open. There were moments where just keeping things stable felt like success. Moments where slowing down and choosing people over plans was the only sensible move.

We’re still here. Not untouched, not neatly healed, but standing. More aware of our limits. More intentional about how we show up for each other. Learning how to rebuild routines, trust, and a sense of home without pretending the cracks never existed.

This blog isn’t about oversharing. It’s about acknowledging that life carries on, even when it doesn’t look the way you expected.

What I’ll Be Writing About

This will be a mix, because my life is a mix.

• Parenting
  The mental load, the exhaustion, the guilt, and the quiet pride that comes from getting through an ordinary hard day.

• Work, identity, and what comes next
  Stepping away from a career, questioning who you are without a job title, and resisting the urge to rush the answer.

• Mental health and rebuilding
  Burnout, masculinity, self-worth, and what it’s like to put yourself back together while other people need you every day.

There will be reflections, practical thoughts, half-formed ideas, and the occasional blunt observation when something deserves to be said plainly.

No hustle culture. No “optimise your life” rubbish. No pretending balance is something you win and then keep forever.

Just one person, writing in public, trying to make sense of kids, code, chaos, and home.

If you’re somewhere in that mess too, you’re welcome here.